What is your perspective on how others view you?
"Even at a young age, I didn't really care how others viewed me. Sure there were and are times where I let the perspectives affect me, this, in turn, could lead to a good or bad effect. Whether I internalized it and let it deter me from doing or being who I wanted to be. Ultimately in the end I know how others view me will always be how they view me and not how I view me. Therefore, how others view me is something I try not to care about unless the perspective brings me clarity or question I care to answer."
Tell us something that you experienced that either no one or very few people know about?
"Very few people know that I have dealt with sexual abuse as a child."
Do you find it hard to share this experience with others? Why or why not?
"I don't find it hard sharing this experience I just don't want it to be what defines me as a person or a central focus."
What steps have you taken to heal?
"I have gone to therapy and have focused on healing spiritually and physically. With therapy, I was able to examine my traumas deeply and work on the areas that affected my relationship with myself and with the relationships with those around me. I uncovered how the sexual traumas affected my sexual/ emotional relationships and the unhealthy attachments I created along the way. With spirituality, It aided in the self-reflective work I was doing in therapy. Through meditation and chakra work I was able to heal a lot of pain. In experiencing spiritual healing, it leads me to the path of getting closer to my ancestors and grounding myself with the original roots of my family. That helped strengthen me and knowing I not only am protected and cared for spiritually but physically I was fortified in forming closer bonds with those closest to me. I've taken steps in building a strong support system and surrounding myself with love and healthy relationships. I'm married to a great man who supports me in being my full authentic self. I have a family that seeks to just be happy and experience life in their own version of bliss. I approach my life now with healing in mind and try to stay on that path. Healing is a lifelong commitment, we go through things all throughout life, things we can struggle to be ready for. So far, I've learned that the best course of action is in surrounding yourself with love so that whenever those hard times come you are strong enough to take on the challenge or have people who can be there for you. In healing, I learned the truth that many fear. You aren't alone you are very loved either by yourself or those closest to you. That love is what stands while trauma and things that have hurt us are left in the past that love remains present and that's what I chose to focus on."
Why is it important for you to share your story with others?
"My story has similarities with other women's stories. However, the takeaway I want people to remember from my story is that the circumstances that formed us and created us don't have to destroy us. We have the power to take back our light. These things that happen that we have no control over, can potentially rob us of our light. Leaving us to live in dark loveless lives or situations. We go through unhealthy situations after another convincing ourselves we aren't deserving of true happiness and love. My solution and how I want to share my story is in the way I live. I want my story to be the story of what love and happiness are. I think it's important to see love in all its forms. I think it's important in sharing my story I form deeper connections to those who are willing to read to understand. In sharing my story I help inspired others to be fearless In how they chase their desires."
What advice do you have today that you would give your past self?
"To my past self, I would tell her… "Girl you did it! you are truly exceptional, I am so proud of you. You are so powerful, more than you ever could've imagined. The happiness you are looking for is possible and is real. You already have it within you and you will meet others who get to share in this experience of the love you have for yourself. You are so happy, and I know you are scared you'll fail. But it's one thing I know, you know if you ever fall when you get back up it's an unstoppable force that can't be reckoned with."